LGBTQ+ Nigerians benefit from the support provided by volunteer counselors via the Qtalk app, which is supported by this site and by the St. Paul’s Foundation for International Reconciliation. Download Qtalk from Google Play or the Apple Store.
Asaba, Nigeria — On a quiet evening in February 2024, Alex, a 22-year-old intersex man, sat alone in his uncle’s house, grappling with thoughts of ending his life. Years of rejection and abuse had taken their toll, and he felt there was no escape.
Desperate for help, he turned to the Qtalk online app, where he connected with a counselor. “I don’t want to be here anymore,” was his first message. “No one cares about me. I don’t belong anywhere.”
A Lifeline in Crisis
The counselor, recognizing the urgency of the situation, responded with patience and empathy, assuring Alex that he was not alone. Over their conversations, Alex shared the struggles he had faced since his parents passed away when he was 13. Living with his uncle had been a nightmare—he was denied an education, subjected to verbal and physical abuse, and made to feel like an outcast because of his intersex identity.
Through guided discussions, the counselor helped Alex explore ways to manage his distress. They introduced coping mechanisms such as breathing exercises, mindfulness techniques, and affirmations. The counselor also connected him with organizations that provide support for intersex individuals and suggested potential avenues to seek alternative shelter and education.
Finding hope as their sessions progressed, Alex slowly began to see a future beyond his current struggles. With the counselor’s encouragement, he reached out to a distant relative who had previously shown him kindness. He also agreed to explore local community groups that could offer support.
“For the first time in years, I feel like someone actually listened,” Alex said. “Maybe I don’t have to give up after all.”
Challenges and Support for Intersex Individuals in Nigeria
Like Alex, many intersex individuals in Nigeria face severe stigma, rejection, and lack of access to basic rights such as education and healthcare. Human rights organizations continue to push for policies that protect intersex people from discrimination. However, gaps remain in legal recognition and social support structures.
Intersex advocates stress the need for inclusive policies and awareness campaigns to educate communities on intersex realities. Mental health services, especially online platforms like Qtalk, play a crucial role in providing immediate support to those in crisis.
Looking Ahead
While Alex’s journey is far from over, his experience highlights the life-saving impact of accessible mental health support. With continued advocacy and intervention, more intersex individuals can find the hope and resources they need to build fulfilling lives, free from stigma and discrimination.
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