In Cameroon, if you are a loving, supportive member of a gay man’s family, you can become a target for violently anti-gay attackers.
Cameroonian LGBT rights activist D. fled to France for his life in 2012 and was granted asylum there.
Now three members of his family are also seeking asylum to escape the persecution they face in Cameroon because of their association with him — his niece, J., and two brothers, including G. whose story is below.
This account was assembled with the help of the volunteer human rights activist known by the pseudonym “Mr. Defender.”
He fears for his life and for his family’s safety because his brother is a gay activist
G. was born into a deeply religious family in 1985 in Yaoundé, Cameroon.
From an early age, he had strong ties with his older brother, D., and soon realized that D. was gay. G. recalls:
“Starting in elementary school, D. behaved like a girl. My father forced him to play football and cops and robbers — to ‘be a boy.’
“I protected him from boys who insulted him and tried to beat him up. I even helped him keep his romantic relationships with boys a secret. ”
One day, a dispute broke out between D. and his boyfriend. His mother intervened and went into his room. There she found lubricants and a package of condoms. On that day in July 2000, everything changed. The whole family had just learned about D.’s homosexuality.
“Our dad started beating D.,” G. says. “Then he locked him in his room without any food or water. I sneaked in to give him something to eat in secret.”
All that was done to D. in an attempt to free him from “the spirit of homosexuality,” G. said.
At a family meeting, their parents decided to remove younger children from what they considered a curse that had fallen on D.
“That’s why J. and I had to leave the house to live in Emana, the neighborhood where my aunts and my maternal family grandmother lived,” G. says.
From 2002 to 2009 (from age 17 to age 24), he and J. lived with that family, where they endured bullying and mandatory prayers aimed at curing “the evil of homosexuality.”
In 2010, he left Emana to attend the University of Soa in Yaoundé.
He attended several seminars about health and human rights that were organized by international anti-AIDS agencies. He also began volunteering at the anti-AIDS, pro-LGBT-rights organization Camfaids, which had been founded by D. and journalist/activist Eric Lembembe.
He became a whole-hearted supporter of Camfaids and of LGBT Cameroonians in general.
“I had to enter the gay world and gain the confidence of this milieu,” he says. “For solidarity, I frequented the same snack bars in the gay community at the Carrefour de la Joie.”
Straight students at the University of Soa wrote insults on the wall of his room: “Faggot! You hang out with faggots!”
Nobody let him join their sport teams. Nobody would shower near him.
People mocked his family, saying, “That family is cursed. Two fags in one family! It’s hereditary.”
But such intense persecution only strengthened G.’s determination to support his brother and the gay community, despite the consequences for his own life.
Eric Lembembe recruited him to work as a paid trainee and then as a paid employee at the social development organization ASSOAL, then as webmaster for Camfaids. In late 2012, after D. moved to France, G. continued working with Eric.
In the summer of 2013, Eric was murdered. The LGBT community demanded an investigation, which came to nothing.
“The whole homosexual community was under pressure,” G. recalls.
Publicity about Eric’s sexual orientation caused problems for G. at ASSOAL. Leaders of ASSOAL suspected that a secret organization of homosexuals had helped Eric excel in his work there. “How else did he manage to get the job done so easily and climb the ladder so quickly,” G. heard whispered about Eric.
Their suspicions then extended to G.
ASSOAL coordinator Jules Dumas Nguebou told him in mid-2014: “You support the fags. So you are part of it. We cannot keep you on, even though your work is satisfactory. The image of ASSOAL is at stake. You have to leave. ”
Unemployed, G. had to return to his parents’ home in Manguier, a dangerous and poor neighborhood in Yaoundé. There the harassment continued.
“Since 2015, because of D.’s activist work abroad, we received insults from neighbors and young people in the neighborhood,” G. says. “Everyone knew that D. had left the country because he was homosexual. He was accused of promoting homosexuality and sullying the image of Cameroon abroad.”
Neighbors called them “the family of fags.”
For safety, the family changed the doors and installed new locks. But someone broke in and ransacked the kitchen.
G. lost several girlfriends after neighbors told them that his big brother was “a big homo.” But one of them stuck with him, unfazed when G. told her that D. was gay and that G. strongly supported him.
She is now his wife. They had a son, and G. named him after D.
Harassment and threats of violence have continued this year.
In the past three months, he has been attacked twice in violent fights with young people in the neighborhood.
Then neighbors filed assault complaints against him in two police stations and accused him of “homosexual propaganda.”
“Young people from the neighborhood shout insults or throw bottles at our house as they pass by on motorbikes or on foot, even when children are playing in the yard,” G. said.
On every holiday, he fears he will be attacked by drunken assailants.
He fears for his life and for his family’s safety, which are in danger on a daily basis. The reason: because his brother is a gay-rights activist.