Liz, age 35, is under pressure from her family to get married but, as a lesbian, that's a problem for her. Here she explains how she plans to get by i
Liz, age 35, is under pressure from her family to get married but, as a lesbian, that’s a problem for her. Here she explains how she plans to get by in the harshly homophobic environment of Nigeria.
From the African Human Rights Media Network
By Mike Daemon
Photo for illustrative purposes only. Photo Credits: Google Images.
For this article, Liz has not used her real name so her family won’t know.
In Nigeria, many LGBTIQ persons grow anxious as they get older and confront pressures from their families and society to get married.
They can’t simply marry the people they love because Nigeria’s anti-gay law outlaws same-sex marriage. They’re deprived of the basic human right to live their lives with their loved ones.
That’s the predicament Liz described when she chatted recently with NoStringsNG:
“My family, especially my mother, has been on my neck to bring a man home for marriage. It is just too much to deal with. In fact, it was too much that I had to move from Lagos to Abuja where I had hoped to get some peace of mind.”
Her solution:
“I have decided to marry a gay man.”
She has a particular gay man in mind, but they haven’t reached a firm decision to tie the knot.
Prior to making her decision, Liz planned to leave the country and go to the West, where she could be herself. But she has given up that hope because of financial constraints.
“I wanted to leave Nigeria a few years ago. I looked for the opportunity to move out, but found none. I am now hoping to settle here and find a solution to my situation.”
So far, Liz says, she has succeeded in hiding her sexual orientation from her family. She said:
“There was a time when my sister caught me discussing my girlfriend, so she went to my parents to expose my sexual orientation. But I denied it. My girlfriend and I were forced to swear on the Bible that I am not a lesbian”.
Liz knows that the solution she has chosen will still leave some of her problems unsolved. She said:
“I really do not know how that is going to work, especially as I will also need children, but I really have to try.”
For more about gay/straight marriages, see the article “Activist woman worries: More gay Nigerians marry women.”
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